Due to some discussions I had I got thinking about gender roles and what we call ourselves, male, female, and those folks that want another choice. So I needed to get this out. . . .
Folks it is time we grow up and look at this like adults, not children. You are Male or Female and that is just a basic fact of your DNA. Beyond that, it does not matter (outside of reproduction) unless YOU let it matter.
Now there are some basic realities that we cannot get around. A 5’ 100 lbs. woman is not going to get a spot as a linebacker on any NFL team. Sorry, that is just a fact and you can self-identify as anything you want that fact won’t change. You get a sex change operation your DNA does not change nor does your basic structure. Going from Male to Female under the knife you will look female but still be stronger than most women because of your genetics and you will have an unfair advantage competing against them physically. No, I don’t think athletes that had a sex change should be able to compete anymore or at least not in any way that they get an unfair advantage.
Go from Female to Male and you will have the same issues except you will be at a disadvantage against other men because your DNA and basic body will be weaker physical than most men. Get over it. Hormones treatments only do so much. . . .
Beyond that why do we let the media/liberals/anyone divide us up like sheep? You need to identify as one of the many sexes they keep coming up with, or no sex at all. . . . This is foolish. You are what you are physically and in your DNA. Accept that and move on with your life. Don’t be the girl on YouTube who self-identifies as a cat. . . you are not a cat nor will you ever be a cat in this life. That is only a path to sadness and possibly madness. . . . enjoy your time with the cats, have a cat or cat’s live with you, but be smart enough to admit you are not a cat. . . .
Let it go. Don’t let your physical sex define you any more than nature requires. We need to stop worrying about what we identify with and just live. Who cares? You need to identify as HUMAN and move on. Don’t get boxed in and don’t get worked up over it. You are male or female, those are your only choices PHYSICALLY but WHO YOU ARE IS SO MUCH MORE than that.
Stop limiting yourself and stop wasting time wanting to be something you physically are not. You only hurt yourself and put up roadblocks to your own happiness and growth that way.
· Love who you want to with all your heart
· Work to get the job you want ( but be real, see above)
· Enjoy your hobbies
· Enjoy your family and friends
· Grow and make the world better
Yes, a guy in a dress is going to get looks. More so than a woman in a suite will. Learn to deal with it or admit society does have some standards and you can break them but you will have to deal with the results. Clothes should not be your identity anyway. . . if it is about how you dress then sorry, I think that is a bit shallow. . . I am sure with some work you could find a way to dress yourself that is your style that would get less attention than a 250 lbs guy in a short black backless dress . . . . You want to go there and wave the freak flag go for it but expect society to look at you funny.
None of this has anything to do with your DNA determined sex . . . don’t let it rule your life. Reality is what it is and you need to work within its bounds no matter what folks tell you. We all have physical limits and challenges of some sort. Learn to work inside the limits and be happy with who you are – don’t let other define you.
Happiness is much more than your sex or your clothes. What it is for you is going to be different than what it is for me but whatever it is it must come from inside you, not outside.